Fear of failure, finding the reason and how you can beat it with more self-belief.
Research has shown that the fear of failure is all about our standards, and that makes us feel worthless and anxious, and we have trouble concentrating. Many people being so afraid to fail they refuse to try.
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Stop living in fear of failure.
The technical term for fear of failure is Atychiphobia and is something many of us suffer from. However, failing to try is the only actual failure.
Everybody hates to fail, but for some people that feeling is so powerful, it can prevent them from moving forward to achieve the success and life they truly desire. When we struggle to work towards and achieve a goal, but paralysed by our doubts of success, and we may not recognise it as such.
However, we can train ourselves to recognise the warning signs of having a fear of failure or the fear of success. The pressure to achieve can be a motivating tool. Still, if not appropriately cultivated, it can quickly turn into a debilitating dread.
You can have a fear of failure and still act.
It allows us to lower the perfection bar, step away from the influence of the people around us and find success in an essential skill following our values. Surround yourself with supportive and positive people who believe in you and your direction.
Redefining success to a values-based definition isn’t about minimising our doubts and maximising success. You will start to realise that looking at things through different perspective highlights some success you might have otherwise missed.
- Defining success around values gives you control.
- Our fears hold us back from that life of achievement.
- We should learn to be OK with ourselves even if we fail.
- Boldly go and achieve your dreams and goals.
When you start thinking this way, it can be much more constructive. However, this redefinition offers us more flexibility in how we view highly influential situations in our work and life. Very few things in life are guaranteed. So accepting the possibility of failing can eliminate some of the pressure we find ourselves in allowing us to focus on productive routes forward.
So next time you’re experiencing that feeling of rejection, please ask yourself whether you followed your values. We may instead say that it is a concern that is stopping us from acting or changing. The feedback we get from succeeding or perhaps not is valuable.
We like to spark our curiosity, so we feel inspired to explore and discover our potential. Initiatives to help us recognise failing as a fact of life, from which we can learn, can have positive outcomes.
People focus on the outcome instead of the experience.
As an entrepreneur, this stifling feeling has overcome me many times. Suppose the self-doubt is motivated by a sense of not being in control of their own life. In that case, a course of action should be advised in which people are encouraged to make decisions independently.
Fear of failure is regularly cited by people for being the reason not making changes that are necessary for achieving the goals that they have set for themselves. These concerns are similar in the sense that they hold back a person from taking action or making changes that help them achieve one of their goals.
Use your own experiences to become mentally stronger and set up opportunities for success. Many people think that if they just experience competence in an area, they will have less fear of failure, but this is not always true.
The fear of failure, is it really the fear of who you are?
It can also cause feelings of anxiety and depression because it is difficult to overcome, understand and move on. No matter how confident you may appear, self-doubt can occur at pivotal times in your career.
Adopting a positive mindset helps to create a sense of mental wellbeing and increased self-worth. The power of positive thinking does significantly increase your chance of a successful outcome.
So start celebrating your successes, learning from failures and making remarkable changes in your life. But frustration often happens there as well, so we have to be ok with that if we want to change.
The positive view of failure is valuable because it’s rare.
There are negative affirmations we’ve learned throughout childhood, from the people around us and the events that have happened to us, mostly our rejections. I tend to be far more cautious because of my past failures, that’s what I’ve learned, even then the fear is ever-present.
We worry that we didn’t do certain things while we had the chance, and also worry about doing them in the future. Writing down the way you feel, what happened and the reason why can really help you to face your fear of failure in the future.
However, self-doubts can be very different in terms of how they form, how they act, and how they can be dealt with through personal development. Often, a person may believe that it is a fear of failure that is stopping them from trying or achieving something in their professional or personal life.
Why is never trying worse than failing?
We must take chances, even at the risk of failure. Never trying can be much worse than failing. When you fail at something, it can become a lesson in life that can be applied to situations in the future. Even as most people know that it’s better to try and fail than never having tried at all, they still won’t take a chance.
It’s not unusual to see this pattern from successful people. And the most famous and successful people in life have failed the most times.
Instead of bringing doom and gloom, this may reduce the fear of failure. Overcoming that feeling opens up a new world of opportunity.
This dramatic shift in perspective then enables the real fear to be explored and addressed. We saw earlier that concerns about other people’s behaviour characterise the fear of success.
Only if we can make the changes and embrace success.
It was my gripping fear of failure that lead to my destruction and downfall in the past. In this perspective, identifying this as a fear of failure is probably wrong.
Many people who suffer from Atychiphobia are actually more afraid of shame than they are of failing. Research demonstrates that, rather than feeling guilt or regret about their inadequacies, people living with self doubt often end up experiencing a diminished sense of worth.
In fact, rejection can sometimes drive you far more than success ever would. Success and fears of failure tend to respond well to action.
Let’s examine how you can use failing to your advantage instead of letting it run your life. Look at what a fear of failure really is, where does it come from, and how you can overcome it, so you enjoy success in your work and life.
The next time you hear that negative voice in your mind, fight back. Did you know there’s a direct correlation between the fear of failure and a person’s ability to manage assignments within the time allotted?
Successful people who fail, keep trying and press on to do remarkable things. Suppose you feel unable to perform tasks out of concern that you won’t succeed. In that case, this fear of failure can inhibit your productivity.
Success is your future the way you want it.
Cognitive-behavioural techniques are often used to help the person learn new ways of thinking about their choices. Fear of failure, Atychiphobia, often renders people immobile and unable to progress towards successfully reaching their objective.
Even for those considered experts in a subject or talent express ongoing difficulties feeling successful. Fact is, if there is a feeling that failing is never the cause, that’s pride.
In the short term, fear of failure influences the types of goals you pursue, the strategies you use to reach them, and the standards you have as the indicators of any success. When deciding which goals to pursue, people with a higher level of fear of failure will focus their efforts much more on preventing losses than achieving gains.
- Don’t think of every unsuccessful attempt as a failure.
- Most of the things we are worried about never happen.
- Failing also makes people doubt their intellect.
- You can’t feel fear and grateful at the same time.
Many people experience the expected feelings of frustration, anger, regret, disappointment or sadness when confronted with failing. A lot of us experience the fear of failure, whether in small doses or consistently.
Look at your past experiences where positive outcomes occurred in situations where failing was possible. Having a track record of positive results is not an accident.
Whatever your first small goals are, start them.
Any signs of anxiety should not be disregarded, but rather, taken care of before it escalates into a more severe condition. Ultimately giving you a better idea of the situations you are most afraid of, and what causes so much anxiety.
Overcoming fear of failure is sometimes about understanding that we have the freedom to change the course of our lives. By choosing to take or avoid risk, you actively participate in a decision that could change your current path. That fear of failure feels real, you have learned it from your past.
This often happens because if someone continually fails at something, it is easy for them to give up future attempts even though it may be possible to succeed. If you have self-doubt about something, it becomes a life lesson you can apply to future situations.
What failing teaches us about success.
This shift of perspective leads us to personal development and ultimately, success and happiness. From those who I talk to, I can assure you that success is feared just as the fear of failure.
Most people feel free to try, take a chance, experiment, even if the outcome isn’t successful in a way much of the world defines it. When the teams at work on two projects were studied, they found that the team involved with the successful project had a genuine fear of failure.
Positive self-talk is a great starting point.
If your head is occupied with such thoughts, fear of failure intensifies and blocks you from taking action. So then aiming to simply make the call has a much lower risk than attempting to close a deal.
I’ve been gripped by that sudden and urgent fear that has suffocated me. Some therapies help a person better understand underlying conflicts that may contribute to these fears.
However, it is when “shame” is at the basis of their response that we can say a fear of failure is present. You never see people congratulate one another for failing to lose weight, failing to graduate, or failing to advance in their careers.
You’ll need to learn how to overcome the fear of failure if it’s preventing you from success. In this way, a “failure” can actually make success more likely, if we use the information as material to build something more substantial going forward. Some intrinsically motivated people typically dare to fail.
What causes the fear of failure?
A lot of psychologists know that the root cause of fear of failure is actually fearing shame or embarrassment if things go wrong. The actual incident, such as failing a college course, is not the problem, it’s the accompanying emotion that it provokes.
It’s the motivation for all things in life big and small. When we think about engaging in the pursuit of trying to live the life of our dreams, we begin to picture cataclysmic failure and it’s game over from there.
Athletes with fear of failure need to learn how to perform efficiently instead of perfectly. Using a phrase like, it didn’t work out is seen as failure neutral. The overlay of the judgment’s gone, there’s a free space where we can look objectively at what happened and learn from it.
They don’t want to fail because they want to avoid feeling shame at all costs. Shame is a toxic emotion because it makes us feel bad about who we are as people.
Inaction looks safe but isn’t, it locks in future regrets.
This fear leads many people to stop working towards their goals and dreams, leaving them stagnant and stuck in their lives. In fact, the fear of failure can be so paralysing that people simply decide to procrastinate over and over again, even though they continue talking about their goals.
While failure might hurt, and people might talk, making us feel like the dirt on their shoes, it’s an inherent part of any successful person. Given society’s obsession with success and successful people, there is an implicit fear of failure in society.